Watched "The Great Pumpkin" Peanuts cartoon last night...it always reminds me of when I was a child...It is a tradition for me to watch all the seasonal cartoons on tv at the holidays...so when Christmas gets here I will watch all those cartoons/clay-mation too!
I see many people make mistakes in life...I was thinking about that this morning..One of the biggest mistakes I see people make is marrying the wrong person or having the wrong boyfriend in life...Too many times women seek shelter with men that are abusive, yell at them, hit them, betray them, lie to them, steal from them, manipulate them....And I'm sure that many men go through the same thing by choosing the wrong woman to share life with as well....
when you know that you are going to wish for someone to share your life with, you need to choose someone you will stay with forever and when choosing that someone make very sure that they are good for you....You can go on dates with others to see if you like them and you get along.....BUT you don't need to sleep with someone to go on a date with them!....just go to an activity, go have lunch, and talk to the person you are with...Get to know one another before you decide to become serious about dating them and eventually marrying them....or just being boyfriend/girlfriend with them..
I just believe that it is best to not sleep with someone until you are married....That is how God intended for married life to be...It is the right way to behave...sleeping with someone you are not married to can lead to many bad things in life and ruin your life, upset you, and it can endanger your life with diseases....
Each person who wishes for a significant other needs just one person the rest of your life..People do not need to be bed hopping and sleeping with many people!...It is awful, nasty, and saddens me..There is no love in bed hopping and being promiscuous...and that is sad..
some people want a good person to be married to for love and spend their lives with a good spouse forever..And the other people just want a good time and they ruin their lives....and in the end are sad and lonely...
AND some people choose to be single and there is nothing wrong with that!..you don't have to be married....you can just date or not date anyone, it's your life and your choice....BUT I believe that if you want to sleep with someone, get to know them/date them, then marry them to sleep with them forever!
people need to be married before they have children I believe..(If they want children..but not too many!...expensive and too much stress!)..If you have children your spouse needs to be helpful with the bills and with the children's well being...and be trustful, reliable, loving, and caring...
sometimes you may fall in love with someone and wish to marry them, they could already have children and you need to make sure that you know how to properly make a family life work by getting to know their children and making sure that you could make a family life work...being a step-parent is just fine when you can love/respect/look out for the children's well being as well!
a spouse, or boyfriend/girlfriend needs to be attentive, loving, caring, helpful...NEVER abusive...So many times we can ruin good relationships by making bad mistakes...
I like the idea of being protecting of your significant other..protecting them from harm, and keeping them safe from others who may try to harm them...just like you should protect your family at all times....it is good to be protecting of all your family...keep them safe always.
someone who truly loves you will NEVER hit you, yell at you, or cause you pain by hurting you by being abusive...IF they do that to you..Leave them! kick them to the curb! you will find someone else who will be better to you!...NEVER stay with someone who is bad to you!
you need to be able to laugh and not have stress in your life when you are married or dating...Life should be beautiful and you should both work toward a healthy, happy relationship..and keep God in your lives by attending church and going to couples counseling....
remember that looks do not matter when finding a love!...Looks don't matter to me and when you find a love, those who have no looks are just as good as the beautiful ones, and could possibly treat you better because they won't be obsessed with how they look all the time!...men with mirrors....*eyeroll*....haha!
IF your significant other ever betrays you by sleeping with another...LEAVE them! they do not love you....it will be painful but you have to just go on with life and find another who will be better to you.
sometimes you may have a husband/wife, boyfriend/girlfriend who is addicted to many things in life...drugs, gambling, shopping, money....If they do have these problems you need to make sure they see a doctor to be properly treated to get rid of their addictions...When someone truly loves someone, love should help kill any addiction no matter how strong it may be...If they truly love you, they will give up all their addictions and see a doctor for them...Love can conquer all.
finding your true love can happen in many different ways...whichever way it happens, you need to always make sure that:
this person is good for you
compatible(like you in some ways)
is not abusive
you know a little about the person's life
they are not forceful
they are kind to you
enjoy similar things in life
look for the same things in a relationship
never encourage bad behavior
they are kind and caring
they love only you as their spouse
they will not be sleeping with others
many times people have arguments and they cannot stand one another...if this happens, you may need to be divorced and that is just fine....it is sad...BUT not all people can stay together....that is why before you marry someone you need to know that this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with...work toward staying together the rest of your life, forever....
when you marry, live together, both of you need to help pay expenses and have occupations of some kind to make money for your couple that are good occupations and not causing anything bad...NO drug dealing, NO drug use, NO prostituting!!!...that is sadness and needs to STOP for everyone all over the world!...
be single, be married, be boyfriend/girlfriend..whatever you may choose for yourself, but do not be sleeping around or promiscuous...if you wish to sleep with someone just be married first....and before you get married, take some time dating and get to know the person....
relationships and love should not be complicated....they should be beautiful!
j.
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